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Can Sexy & Shoulder Pads Co-Exist?

I NEED THOSE BUNNY EARS!!!.jpgAs any fashion lover knows, dressing fashionably and dressing for the opposite sex are usually two very different things.

It’s a long debated argument, just who exactly to dress for, one we’ve even covered a few times, but today’s story in the Daily Mail got us thinking; while broad shoulders and draped bodices are hot trends for AW09, wearing say, a poof-sleeved, leather Louis Vuitton-shaped dress on a Friday night, isn’t the best way to rope in the dude at the bar.

Not that we expect that to be your number one concern, we just wonder how you balance your love of runway fashion with your social life. You probably don’t forego baggy Marc dresses or shredded Current/Elliots or massive Marni platforms just because the girl in low slung jeans and a white tank looks at you like you’re nuts or the guy you’re dating says, “You look like a cake topper,” - (true story) - but you also must shy away from being too fashion forward at some point.

The disconnect between fashionable and sexy can be frustrating, so how do you make it work?

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posted by guest

Aug 31, 2009 3:57PM

This is where my love of accessories comes into play. I say that if you're out on a Friday night "looking for a guy" it doesn't mean you should give up who you are and play a part in someone else's ideal. Okay, yes maybe tone it down but play up your look with acessories. Big rings, fun shoes, a great bag. Any fashion girl knows you can still stand out then without STICKING out like you're trying to hard. Rock the shoulder pads but don't wear them with 80s ruffles. Make the rest of the outfit slimming and complimentary to your body. Cinch the baggy dress with a belt and if all else fails well then another trend of the upcoming season is over the knee boots and ha I've never had any man make a complaint about those.....

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posted by frankielovestoshop

Aug 31, 2009 4:00PM

Don't ever pay any attention to anything written in the daily mail!

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posted by guest

Aug 31, 2009 4:05PM

shoulder pads are awful. Are there legions of sloped shouldered women out there that need help ? It's a ridiculous trend made up to sell clothes.

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posted by maladroite

Aug 31, 2009 4:21PM

I asked my boyfriend about it when AW2009 came out, and while he is pretty intellectual in what he considers sexy, ie. marni, jil sander etc., the only way he considers shoulder pads to look sexy is the way Balmain did it.
What I think, is if you like it, don't think about what others may think. People are too busy worrying about themselves to care. Don't we dress for ourselves, and then other girls anyway?

http://tdotfashion.blogspot.com

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posted by calvinshowblogspotdotcom

Aug 31, 2009 4:44PM

I sort of agree with what Maladroite has said. Yes, we all know that people judge people with what they are wearing but there seriously has to be a point where one says "Who cares?" If you want to wear something outrageous and runway inspired, do it but you better damn well make sure you're confident the moment you step on the scene. Self confidence can make almost anything look sexy as long as it isn't ill-fitted.

http://calvinshow.blogspot.com

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posted by Bluenite

Aug 31, 2009 4:54PM

# 3. Aren't all trends made up to sell clothes? Isn't that the whole point of the fashion industry? Great art needs to make a profit to survive.

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posted by guest

Aug 31, 2009 4:55PM

I stick with simple & basic pieces paired with statement accessories. When going out with the intent of getting a hetero male's attention, I make it more about(natural) beauty and confidence. Now if I'm dressing solely for myself, I'm more prone to being more creative, experimental, and adventurous in choice.

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posted by grammyweezy

Aug 31, 2009 5:26PM

I think it depends on the type of man that you are trying to attract. I think men are attracted to the teeshirt and jeans at the bar kind of girl because they find her non-threatening. A guy who is confident and not afraid to be with an exceptional woman won't be scared away by the size of your shoulders.

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posted by emj1585

Aug 31, 2009 5:35PM

While I don't think one should compromise their sense of style to attract a mate, I also think you need to know your audience when dressing for any occasion or location. If you're going to a sports bar, maybe leave the Loubs and Rodarte at home. There's a time and a place for everything in your closet. Its up to you to determine what those are. And if you DO decide to wear your YSL sequin jumpsuit and cage heels to Brother Jimmy's BBQ, then wear it like you mean it.

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posted by guest

Aug 31, 2009 6:09PM

Agree completely with emj1585 - there's a time and a place.

However, my main rule if that he's put off by your awesome clothes he's not worth your time. Where's the future in someone that can't even see past/see the value in a crazy awesome dress.

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posted by RashomonRebel

Aug 31, 2009 9:35PM

I usually check out what a girl is wearing more so than her attractiveness and that is why I'm hoping to see any of these puffer concoctions this winter

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7b5KuaWNjHA

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posted by guest

Aug 31, 2009 11:56PM

as much as i love and gush over the runway looks, i won't wear anything that doesn't translate into real life. keeping that in mind, i want someone to be attracted to me for who i am -- crazy fashion lover & all. usually i tend to be pretty casually dressed, and there are definitely ways to tone down the dramatic shoulders and drapes.

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posted by guest

Sep 01, 2009 3:54AM

I second what commenter #2 said.

Why does one have to dress for men OR other women? Why not dress for oneself and what makes you happy and if others happen to like it then even better!

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posted by Annie

Sep 01, 2009 6:37AM

Two things:
1) If you're dressing to, basically, get a man/sex then you are dressing for your self as you benefit from the sex/man, surely?
2) As I'm too young to have lots of money to spend on clothes or go to a bar (legally anyway) then just wear fashion atone point of the week and sexy clothes at another?

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posted by mrsPILATI

Sep 01, 2009 9:04AM

I think there is a time and place for everything. That being said, as long as you feel comfortable in whatever it is that you are wearing your personality and charm will seep through and that's all they will notice after a while. An idiot is an idiot no matter what it looks like.

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posted by dato

Sep 01, 2009 12:17PM

I knew their was a reason why i read this blog, thanks everyone; this was really helpful

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posted by guest

Sep 01, 2009 12:41PM

#3-this is a FASHION blog! get your shoulder pad negativity gone! we're not talking about Moms 80's jacket-tho I can re-imagine the look now...sick.

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posted by guest

Sep 01, 2009 1:29PM

I am #3 the question was - Can Sexy & Shoulder Pads Co-Exist? I say no. Shoulder pads were not meant to be a fashion statement they were a figure fix. To use them now as a fashion statement is unattractive and unnecessary.

this statement - "Great art needs to make a profit to survive." - makes me weep.

It spells out the entire problem with fashion being a "industry" there is no separation lin ein that case between Wal-Mart and Louis Vuitton besides the price tag

Indeed the Emperor Has No Clothes

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posted by Zoe

Sep 01, 2009 2:50PM

## The difference between LV and Walmart is the same difference between Rothko and a print from Ikea.

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