Attention, All Potential Brides-to-Be: Finding a Wedding Dress is a Pain in the Ass

About a month ago, I got engaged. And it's exciting! I'm looking forward to getting married, having a party, and spending the rest of my life with th
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About a month ago, I got engaged. And it's exciting! I'm looking forward to getting married, having a party, and spending the rest of my life with th
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About a month ago, I got engaged.

And it's exciting! I'm looking forward to getting married, having a party, and spending the rest of my life with this awesome person.

But let me warn you, finding a dress is a pain in the rear. At least for those who don't want to look like a vanilla cupcake.

I think the dresses at J.Crew are gorgeous, but they're just not me. We're having a very casual wedding, so I know I want something short...with sleeves, too. Net-a-Porter has some beautiful options; it's the only place on the high end where I've found pieces I like, but nothing's been quite right.

I figured I'd wait until the Spring 2011 collections premiered to really start my search. That is, until I spied Look #8 from Erdem's Spring 2010 runway.

Click here to see it. (I didn't want to use the image in this story in case my fiance reads it.)

This is my dress. It's my dress. I emailed the image to Britt and she wrote back immediately, exclaiming: "IT'S PERFECT!!! CALL THEM RIGHT NOW!" So I called Erdem's studio the next morning. They told me where the dress--called "Kimi"--was stocked in the US. I called the three stores. It was sold out.

I'm heading to London for a wedding next week, so I told the folks at Erdem that I'd be willing to pay extra to have the dress produced specifically for me. I discovered that A) The manufacturer does not have time to produce the dress by March of 2011 and B) Even if I do find the dress in my size when at Harvey Nichols or wherever in the UK, it was produced sans-sleeves. The retail version is strapless, actually. Tear.

Yet, after talking to several brides and engaged women, I realize I'm not as picky as I originally thought. A friend of mine--who loves J.Crew but wants something more unique for her wedding--can't even find anything she likes that has straps, let alone sleeves. And I've learned that many brides end up buying multiple dresses because they just can't find the right one.

This is the last thing I have to say on the subject. Traditional designers: Please start making white/off-white versions of your favorite dresses. Women will buy them. Bridal designers: Not everyone wants a strapless, a-line ensemble.

Indeed, fashion needs to give bridal wear a swift kick in the...you know what. I've already said it too many times today.