From @hcastanon:Do you have any regrets? Do you think you could have done more to help Issie? I know it’s mentioned in both books that you took a lot from people who thought you didn’t do enough, but i want to know from YOU!!! Yourself what you think?
Detmar Blow: I gave Issie all the love, support, and encouragement I could to live. But I am not God.
And Issie did try hard to fight her depression, which was partly genetic. (As she knew.) Her grandfather had committed suicide and his half brother had drunk himself to death.
At the end she became determined to kill herself. She went to three private hospitals and two state hospitals in the last two years of her life.
It was Issie’s decision to take her own life. As I know from her and my father’s suicide it is something I will never get over–and the legacy leaves a scar on many people.
Issie was angry that a few people, who loved her and could do nothing themselves, decided out of frustration and love use me as a scapegoat and to criticize me at the time. Issie told me that I was an angel, blameless–it was her choice–and that I had given her, as I had done for 19 years, unconditional love.
The blame game is a wrong one. Issie would have hated it. Everyone tried to help Issie–myself, her sisters, Conde Nast, and her friends.
No one wanted her to die. Sadly it was her decision. And Issie was determined.
Now we must celebrate her amazing life. She achieved beyond her wildest dreams.