The New York Times has an article about tweens and shopping that was so confusing, you'll have to sort it out for me. It was written by Lesley Jane Seymour, the former Marie Claire editor, as she followed her middle school daughter around the mall. And while the ideas presented were hardly groundbreaking - junior high kids have a huge influence over parental budgets; clothes can make or break a child's social life in school - one thing was really odd to me. The parents interviewed just would not, could not tell their children "no." Example one: A mom tells Ms. Seymour that shopping at Abercrombie is good for her daughter because "It’s not really about clothes...At this age it’s important for them to feel like they’re part of a larger club. And this does it.